Self Destructive Behavior in Students Impacts Us All

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At-risk students act out in ways that put them and others at risk. This is a major reason why changing their path as early and as completely as possible is so important. Behaviors can be attention seeking or an effort to exert power of their own lives. These behaviors are labeled “at-risk” behaviors because the consequences of these actions can lead to a real threat to students physically, emotionally, and psychologically. The threat of these consequences can extend to other students around the individuals acting out.

 

Behaviors can be attention seeking or an effort to exert power of their own lives.

 

These behaviors can be changed by making a meaningful change to students’ mindsets. In the same way that “at-risk” behavior can sweep up groups of students in a negative way, a positive outlook can impact others powerfully as well. Negative behavior is easier to spread and that is why we see those impacts more often, but with the right changes to the students that need uplifting the most, they can become leaders within the school that show their peers within their generation that there is another way.

 

If we reach students where they are, change is possible.

 

Changing student behavior now is worth the effort and is possible. If we reach students where they are, change is possible. They want to make something positive out of their lives even if they are not certain of how to get there. They all want friends. They all want a place in this world. They all deep down want their parents to be proud of them. There is a core of positive potential in each of these students that can be built into something great if used properly.

 

There is a core of positive potential in each of these students.

 

I believe in the ability of students to change because of what I have seen firsthand. I believe that can be repeated in other schools. It can happen in your school.

I’m proud of you for not giving up on these students that need you the most. The fact that you are reading this article says a lot about what you are trying to accomplish. Use the resources of ALL IN GEN to help you change student behavior for their good and the good of school.

 

All In Generation is the nation’s leading resource for School Assemblies and Character Seminars. Check out the rest of our website to view supportive resources, gather solutions, and find out more about bringing us to your local school and community.

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Bullies and bullying can be prevented by the slow and methodic process of mentoring and coaching from a caring mindset. Each and every young person carries a wealth of potential. It’s up to us to see, call forth, and empower that potential. Your diligence and long hours toward maturing this generation are not in vain, but rather are changing the world.

Bully Prevention to Empower Students: Steps that Work

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Students are the first line of contact when it comes to encountering bullying behavior. If students can be educated and empowered to make the right choices, it will make a huge difference in dealing with bullying within a school. There are some simple steps that can be employed by students to help the adult authority deal with bullying to help protect the victims and the school from violence involved with bullying behavior.

 

You don’t want to face it alone.

 

Check with the target and see if they need help.
The one thing you don’t want to do with bullying is face it alone. It is important to check in with the target after it is safe to do so to be sure that anything severe is dealt with immediately, but also to let the person know they are seen and respected. It could save a life.

Send for authoritative help. Tell an adult.
Do not keep bullying a secret. This empowers the bad behavior, hurts everyone, and prevents adults in a position to help from being able to do so. Involve adults. Schools are full of trusted adults who care and they will intervene if given the knowledge of the problem and the opportunity to do so.

 

Do not keep bullying a secret.

 

Confront the harasser.
This does not mean answering violence for violence. Confronting the harasser does not require a fight. It does not have to be done alone. It can be as simple as calling out the behavior as wrong to let everyone including bystanders know that this is not okay and it is seen. Other students will be empowered when they see one student take a verbal stand to defend a fellow student.

Distract the harasser.
This does not have to be complicated. The goal is to take the attention off of the target. The more divided a harasser’s attention is, the less likely the behavior is to continue in that moment. It saves the target anymore embarrassment and buys time to check in with the target and to involve an adult before another incident occurs.

 

Involve an adult before another incident occurs.

 

Protecting students from harm is everyone’s responsibility and we can do it together if we know what to do. We would not be in this profession if the well-being of the students was not important to us.

Make the students, teachers, and administration a team when it comes to preventing bullying. With all these groups on the same page and educated on the right things to do, a lot can be accomplished within a school.

All In Generation is the nation’s leading resource for School Assemblies and Character Seminars. Check out the rest of our website to view supportive resources, gather solutions, and find out more about bringing us to your local school and community.

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Bullies and bullying can be prevented by the slow and methodic process of mentoring and coaching from a caring mindset. Each and every young person carries a wealth of potential. It’s up to us to see, call forth, and empower that potential. Your diligence and long hours toward maturing this generation are not in vain, but rather are changing the world.

The Facts about Bullying

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The unfortunate connection between suicide and bully victimization …

This is a topic that is very painful for me to talk about. Each life lost is one that we failed to reach in time. While it does not serve to blame ourselves for these losses, it does help if we move forward with the idea of making a real change in the lives of students and within the school environment where they live and where they sometimes suffer in silence.

Each life lost is one that we failed to reach in time.

 

THE THINGS WE DON’T SEE
Suicide remains one of the leading causes of death for children under 14 – under 14 years old! That’s heartbreaking. Hanging is the most common method used by these students. What’s more heartbreaking is that according to The American Association of Suicidology, AAS, the suicide rate has increased for students aged 10 to 14 by 50% over the last three decades. This is an epidemic. Often, we do not connect the warning signs until it is too late. We simply do not expect young people to do this even with the statistics showing it is on the increase for younger and younger students.

 

This is an epidemic.

 

The Yale University of Medicine concluded that 13 countries in their study on the subject found an apparent connection between suicide in young people and bullying. Now that we see what we have not seen before, what can we do?

 

THE THINGS WE DO SEE
1 in 7 students in grades K-12 is either involved in bullying behavior or is the victim of bullying. Unfortunately, because of the scrutiny given to bullying, many schools are motivated to re-categorize referrals related to bullying behavior in order to avoid the difficulties related to a higher reporting rates. As a result, the official school reports do not always reflect the experiences of the victims of bullying within a school environment and this makes the issue tougher to address in a direct way.

56% of students have personally witnessed some type of bullying. We are seeing it. 15% of school absenteeism can be directly related to fears of being bullied in school. 71% of students report bullying as an issue in their schools. When we hone in on 4th through 8th graders, the rate of students reporting being victims of bullying in their school experience rises to 90%. There are high levels of reported bullying with these younger students at the same time that the suicide rate for this age group has been in a sharp incline. At the same time, 54% of students involved in bullying behavior report witnessing violence at home. And according to bullying statistics from National Voices of Equity, Education and Enlightenment, 1 out of every 10 students who eventually drop out of school do so due to repeated incidents of bullying.

 

THE THINGS WE CAN DO
This is a problem that needs to be addressed, but administrators and other school personnel need to have the resources and support to address the problems directly and effectively. ALL IN GENERATION can help. Clint Thomas of ALL IN GENERATION is a powerful youth speaker who can connect with youth culture and empower students through school assemblies and curriculum support to make better choices that move away from violent choices, self-destructive behavior, and a by-stander attitude toward bullying. His influence on schools has shown a marked decrease in disciplinary referrals and absenteeism as a direct result of getting through to students in a way that brings about real change for individuals and the school environment.

 

Administrators and other school personnel need to have the resources and support.

 

We all choose a career in fields of education, youth work, and leadership because we feel called to something. We want to help. We want to protect. Dealing with the reality of the issue of bullying is an important part of that calling.

ALL IN GEN can provide the resources and support to allow you and your staff to meet this important calling. Use what we offer to help make a difference in your school environment.

All In Generation is the nation’s leading resource for School Assemblies and Character Seminars. Check out the rest of our website to view supportive resources, gather solutions, and find out more about bringing us to your local school and community.

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Bullies and bullying can be prevented by the slow and methodic process of mentoring and coaching from a caring mindset. Each and every young person carries a wealth of potential. It’s up to us to see, call forth, and empower that potential. Your diligence and long hours toward maturing this generation are not in vain, but rather are changing the world.

Ten Tips for Prevention of Substance Abuse

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How Young People Can Take Back Power over Their Own Lives …

There is never going to be anything more powerful than a student taking responsibility for their own lives. It is the entire goal of substance abuse prevention programs. Students empowered to make better choices change their own destinies and can change the lives of other students around them. With that in mind, here are ten tools people can use to make better choices for themselves.

 

Not everyone is doing it.

 

1) Don’t be afraid to say No.
We fear negative reactions from peers. You may think otherwise, but not everyone is doing it. Some people are actually waiting and hoping for that one person to say no so that they will not be alone. Don’t let others make decisions about your future for you. You don’t have to give a reason why. Just walk away. That is your right.

2) Connect with friends.
Pay attention to who you are hanging out with. Avoiding negative peer pressure is easier with a group of like-minded friends. The more people you hang out with that make bad choices the stronger that pull will be. You don’t have to go along to get along.

3) Stay connected with your parents and other trusted adults.
Your parents and teachers can be a source of great strength and support for you. Whatever you may be going through, there are adults that care. They can help you when you have made mistakes and they can help you move away from destructive situations or choices. They will be there for you long after others in your life have left.

 

Stay grounded in the things that really define who you truly are.

 

4) Enjoy life and do the good things that you love.
The more things you enjoy that do not involve alcohol and drugs the better. Empty lives and idle time are the pathways that often lead young people to try to fill a void in their lives with substance abuse. Do not turn your back on the pursuits that you love in order to try things which will hurt you. Stay grounded in the things that really define who you truly are.

5) Follow family rules.
Don’t let alcohol or drugs get between you and your family. As you get older and take more control over your own life, do not forget who you are or what you stand for. Your family rules protect you and they empower you when you choose them for yourself. Stick to what you know is right and talk to your parents about what you are facing in life.

6) Get educated.
There are a lot of myths and misconceptions. Do not take your facts from the dumbest person in your peer group that is already using drugs. Know the truth by learning the real effects of drugs. Use those facts to guide you away from destructive choices in your life.

 

Be the example.

 

 

7) Be the role model.
Be the example. You are setting a foundation for your own life, but you are helping others see another way too. Nothing is more powerful in the lives of your friends than to see you making good choices. It will change your life and could change their lives too.

8) Plan ahead.
Do not let yourself end up in a situation where you seemingly have no way out. Don’t let others take you along as they are driving under the influence or breaking the law. Plan to have a way to leave if something bad occurs.

9) Speak Out.
Take responsibility for your life. When you see friends messing up their lives, say something. Tell them you are seeing them come apart and you are disappointed. Don’t let them lie to themselves that everything is okay. The truth must be heard.

 

There are people that want to help. You don’t have to be alone.

 

 

10) Get help.
If someone you know is in trouble with drugs or alcohol, get help. Don’t wait. If you are in trouble, reach out now. There are people that want to help. You don’t have to be alone.

I am one of those people willing to help. This goes for students, teachers, and administrators. I’m here as a part of All In Generation to help lift young people out of destructive choices and to empower staff to make a difference. We can change lives and change school culture together.

You do not have to face these issues alone. Contact me now to partner with All In Generation for your school. We can help you meet your goals for your students and for your school.

All In Generation is the nation’s leading resource for School Assemblies and Character Seminars. Check out the rest of our website to view supportive resources, gather solutions, and find out more about bringing us to your local school and community.

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  • Parent and Mentor Trainings
  • Ready-Made-Curriculums
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Bullies and bullying can be prevented by the slow and methodic process of mentoring and coaching from a caring mindset. Each and every young person carries a wealth of potential. It’s up to us to see, call forth, and empower that potential. Your diligence and long hours toward maturing this generation are not in vain, but rather are changing the world.

Bullying Prevention – Five Secrets to Stopping a Bully

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The influence that bullying is having on our young people is impacting their education, self esteem, safety and in many cases, has even become an issue of life or death as has been illustrated in the internationally broadcasted cases of bullying related suicides. It has become imperative that we as a society stand up for those being victimized and address this issue head on in order to intentionally make a difference in the lives of all who are affected by this tragic injustice.

 

It has become imperative that we as a society stand up for those being victimized.

 

There are proven, effective steps that can be used to prevent a bullying culture as well as to pre-empt the very factors that produce a bullying nature in the lives of young people. We cannot control everything, but these are things we can do to make an important difference in people’s lives right now.

 

Young people need to be affirmed daily by those that matter most in their lives.

 

1. Encouragement: Young people need to be affirmed daily by those that matter most in their lives. Take the time to catch your students doing something right! Recognize and affirm their potential not just their present state.

2. Empowerment: Young people need vision for the future. Once you can recognize their potential, point them toward resources that can grow that potential. Help them to develop a practical plan to achieve that potential.

 

They need measurable boundaries.

 

3. Rules: Students need rules. They need measurable boundaries that can be used to provide a sense of winning and losing, succeeding and failing. Rules are an opportunity toward developing personal responsibility.

 

Lean into this opportunity.

 

4. Recognize that their greatest need is you: As a parent, mentor, or consistent leader in their lives, you are the ones they are developing self-esteem, vision, passion, direction and value from. Lean into this opportunity and empower it.

5. Get Students Involved: Human nature longs for and needs community to be and remain healthy and properly functioning. Groups, teams, clubs and the like provide young people places of meaning and belonging that are invaluable to their development.

 

Their greatest need is you.

 

As an educator, parent, leader and mentor I have not only a responsibility but an opportunity to change the lives of thousands of young people over the span of my career. I am willing to assume more than my job; I am committed to mature students into great men and women.

The greatest way to stop a bully is the pre-emptive strike of proper mentoring that ultimately results in not allowing our young people to eventually become bullies. If we, as adults and leaders, can proactively assume the share of responsibility to both mentor and parent well the generation before us, then we cut off the dysfunctions at work in young people that create a bullying nature.

All In Generation is the nation’s leading resource for School Assemblies and Character Seminars. Check out the rest of our website to view supportive resources, gather solutions, and find out more about bringing us to your local school and community.

  • School Assemblies
  • Character Seminars
  • Parent and Mentor Trainings
  • Ready-Made-Curriculums
  • Community Events

Bullies and bullying can be prevented by the slow and methodic process of mentoring and coaching from a caring mindset. Each and every young person carries a wealth of potential. It’s up to us to see, call forth, and empower that potential. Your diligence and long hours toward maturing this generation are not in vain, but rather are changing the world.

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